• Lisa Keaveney

What I am learning about family

Is it ok to let go of family if they keep hurting you over and over? We are connected by blood, is it still ok? But it's my mother (father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin, grandparent)?

I am learning that just because they are related to me by blood, whether it's a mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, cousin, grandparent, does not mean l have to keep them in my life. There are givers and takers in families, when there is a balance of both in each person, the family runs smoothly.

I am learning that I get to decide when I have given enough of my love, help, and hope. I decide how much guilt I put into keeping hold of or letting go of the blood-related person, I decide how much longer I will take the bullshit they give me. I have had enough!! I AM DONE!! I am worth more than what they think I am, a whole LOT more.

I have been giving to members of my family since I was a young girl. I'm not sure if it was to make up for being such an inconvenience as someone who came into this world unwanted or if there was another reason. I picked this family to be born into there must have been a reason.

The family I have created with Andy is amazing! Yes, we are dysfunctional but what family isn't. We love and support each other; What I am learning is that we are assuming what another member of the family feels about us or our situation when in fact the love we feel for each other and the support we give as really unconditional.

I am learning that asking fair and honest questions will get fair and honest answers. Don't assume anything about anyone, ask the question you want to know the answer to. Be open to what is being said and unsaid.

It is ok to not hang on to blood family if it keeps you from your highest potential, it's ok to let go of family who keeps you feeling stuck. That being said, I am NOT saying it is easy to move on. Doing the right thing isn't always the easiest but it is what is best for you and you decide what is right and what is wrong for you!

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