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Friends or Family???

I want to ask you all something, which runs thicker and deeper, blood (family) or water (friends)? Richard Bach said, “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other.” I love this quote because I have a whole lot more friends who would do ANYTHING for me and a whole lot of family who would do less. THAT being said, I consider my husband, my daughter and my son some of my best friends because we would do anything for each other! (There are other family members who I could count on but not very many)......hmmm what does that say about family?

If I get into a situation and know a friend who has had a similar experience or is a professional in a certain area, I can call them up and ask for help. They would be more than willing to help out; How do I know that? I have put it to the test, that’s how. Even if we don’t communicate a lot, I know they will help and to that end, I owe them BIG! I WANT MY FRIENDS TO KNOW THAT IF THEY CALL ME FOR HELP OR SUPPORT, YOU BET I WOULD BE THERE FOR THEM!!!!!

As for family, there are a few I can count on one hand that would be willing to help. Most of my family are more likely to judge, call me names and jump to conclusion rather than get my side or help and that is sad. “Blood is thicker than water” does not hold a candle to what friends would do for each other. So help me with this conundrum if you can.

I have a lot of Facebook friends who post daily. I love seeing how they are growing in their families, schooling, careers and life in general. My heart gets bigger every time I see this. I am so proud of where my friends have been and come in the years, I have known them.

I have learned that just because a person is related to you by blood or marriage, does not mean you have to keep them in your life.

If a person in my life, whether it is family or friend, is negative all the time, blames others for how their life is turning out (and not taking responsibility for their own life) or who play the victim all the time, I don’t feel like I need that in my life so I will dissolve that relationship consciously or naturally.

That is why successful people say to surround yourself with people who you want to be like. I like positive upbeat people but not necessarily of the same beliefs as I have (because that makes life interesting). This is another way to manifest your ideal life and it is a pleasant one too.

I am beginning to learn that friendships are important but what is even more important is what type of persons you surround yourself with in this lifetime. Also what you see in others is a reflection of who YOU are and who YOU want to be….(read that underlined again).

So if you would like to give your opinion please do, I would love to know your thoughts on this as you have just read mine. Love you all and learn something new EVERY day!!


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